It turns out that what he meant was that he’s just emotionally drained – and while he still loves me he’s lost the passion he had for me and needs to sort himself out so he can find that passion again. So in short he doesn’t want to leave me, but he can’t guarantee that our relationship will be his priority just now. He also flagged that he’s worried that if we’re not having sex that my eye will wander. I’ve reassured him that this won’t be an issue as my sex drive has declined since I’ve started taking my anti-depressants again. Plus I’m already on excellent terms with Palm and her five sisters and their friend internet porn.
I’ve told him that I’m still willing to attend a relationship councillor but I think that he should see a therapist alone. He’s dealt with a lot in the last seven years – my breakdown over my father, his friend Kat committing suicide, his aunty dying, his Dad’s stroke and us getting burgled. Unlike me he doesn’t self medicate with anti-depressants, I’ve been through therapy and freely express myself with my family. He doesn’t – while his family background appears to be the perfect happy family he’s often listening to his mum off load but he keeps his thoughts and feelings to himself. Maybe this is why he feels drained. I’ll fully support him through this process as I’m an advocate of therapy and wouldn’t be here without it.
However, I have made him promise that if he suddenly feels the one thing that will make him happy is being single that he lets me know as we are so financially entwined that any separation will need to be friendly.
So that now leaves me in a relationship that’s on standby – while he sorts his head out, but at least I can clearly see where he is coming from and I know he loves me.
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